Sometimes, life doesn’t go the way you hoped it would. Sometimes, it hurts. Actually, scrap that – a lot of times it can hurt! Like when you give your heart and life to someone, only for them to turn around and reject you. I know – that makes you feel like you’re not good enough, like you’re not worth loving, like there’s something wrong with you.
So you try a little harder.
Try to make yourself more loveable.
More like the kind of person who won’t get rejected. Again.
You try to fit yourself into becoming like some of those others you see who have it all. They don’t have to deal with the heartache, the pain, the tears in the middle of the night. Right? They have it all. The house. The job. The marriage. The family. They have it all together.
And so you watch, try to work out what they have which you don’t. Try to make yourself fit whatever mold would make you accepted instead of rejected.
But life doesn’t work like that.
You only have to look at some of the “beautiful people” out there to see that rejection doesn’t care about how you look, about how nice you are, about whether you’re the pop princess, or have a zillion instagram followers. Rejection is not a respecter of any of those things.
It’s not a respecter of you.
And that’s what it comes down to, at the end of the day. You. Being authentic to you. Sure, you can try and match the “popular kids”; or try to be what that guy wants you to be, but at the end of the day – are you really being you, or are you just trying to avoid being rejected. Again. And again. And again.
In a world where people are fighting for acceptance, at almost any cost… and I totally get it, when they reject you it hurts. Rejection hurts. Rejection is lonely.
But don’t… whatever you do… reject you.