More Than A Booty Call

She was lying in bed, tossing and turning, wondering what it is she had done which had made him ignore her. Why wasn’t he returning her calls. They’d had a good night together, hadn’t they? So why was he now avoiding her?

Through the thin walls of her apartment she could hear the snores of her neighbour, at least someone in the building was getting some sleep. She had to be up for work in a few hours, but was so consumed with thoughts of what she could have done to offend him, as she had been for the last four nights, sleep was a distant memory.

Suddenly her phone started vibrating. Checking the time illuminated next to her, she could see it was 2am – she’d gone to bed four hours ago, after announcing on her social media pages she was dead to the world, so who would be trying to call her now. Checking the id she could see… It was him! Finally!

“Hey babe. Where you at?”

“I’m in bed” she replied. 

“Great. I’m just comin up to your block, innit. Let me in.”

“What do you mean?”

“I was missing you babe. It’s been sooo crazy. I just wanted to see you, innit. Let me in. Stop messing. It’s cold out here.”

 

Sista…girl…lady…honey…DO NOT LET THE JOKER IN! You are so much more than a 2am booty call!!

Back when I was a youth leader, this was a real situation… The girl couldn’t accept the guy was using her and so all that happened was she got spun round-and-round in circles, her value of herself become less than God’s value declared over her based on that guy’s treatment of her. But she couldn’t see it.

She didn’t think she had any right to say “no” to this guy because she’d convinced herself that she, “loved him”. And she was lucky to get hooked up with a guy like him. Oh honey! This is not love. This is not respect. This is not how God intends for any of His ladies to be treated.

Someone reading this may be looking for love – hoping to meet that man they can settle with, and feel loved by, during this new year. But listen to this harsh lesson before you allow yourself to be led into something which is going to damage your heart – God is not in the business of allowing you to be strung along. As long as you submit to Him, He will direct your path, but I can guarantee there will be many wasps who try to come along and distract you from what God has for you. Wasps attack and sting without any real reason or cause. Remember that.

You shall know a man by the fruit he displays. Does he only talk to you on his terms? Does he only see you when it suits him? Does he expect more than God would permit? Then know your value and cut your ties before your heart gets hurt a little more.

Who does Jesus say you are? You only have to look at the Scriptures to understand your value as a woman – so potential suitors need to be aware you know how much you’re worth:

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault… No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church.‭‭ Ephesians‬ ‭5:25-30‬

Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words. The last man I was with knew exactly how to say the right thing – whether he meant it or not was irrelevant to him. Don’t let the  charming words of a booty call detract you from the higher calling of what you’re worth – and a man should add to that, encouraging you to be more than you thought possible, inspiring you to go further than you could have imagined, journeying with you, not becoming a stumbling block to your path.

Real love isn’t going to expect you to compromise on your values. But honey, you need to know what those values are, and walk strong in them.

You can’t slouch in heels!!

Don’t slouch away from the core of who you are.

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